Are you a complainer?
Are you constantly “unsatisfied” with most people, places, and things?
Does it seem like the world is just one being chore constantly getting in the way of your plans?
Do other people become obstacles to your successes, rather than harmonious assistants to them?
Have you ever stopped and thought for a moment that YOU may perhaps be a larger part of the equation than you care to admit?
Below are five popular excuses which do nothing except rob you of your personal power (while simultaneously making you look like a fool):
5. I Don’t Have Time for That!
Really? You don’t have time for constructive activities that better not only your personal quality of life, but that of those who associate with you?
If you don’t have time to increase the quality of your life, then what the hell DO you have time for?!
You don’t have time to take care of your body, cook real food, or establish meaningful relationships with new and exciting people because, why again, exactly?
Because you’d rather play Xbox for five hours a day instead of going outside for a 30 minute walk or run?
Because you’d rather stay late and talk with co-workers about drama instead of preparing a delicious, nutrition-packed dinner for yourself (and/or your spouse)?
Because you’d rather sit on FaceBook and artificially communicate with people who live two houses down from you – and then wonder why you feel empty and despondent inside so often?
Do you compound this issue by using kids or rowdy siblings as an excuse?
Remaining up to your ears in pseudo-busy work is a convenient – and sad – method to avoid facing the truth.
4. I Don’t Have Money for That!
This might be the only semi-legitimate excuse on this list, but it’s still flawed for a few really good reasons.
First of all, money will appear to control your life from all sides until you learn to disconnect your emotional detachment from that which it appears to secure.
In English, this means becoming conscious of the fact that money isn’t what’s actually “buying” you anything; it’s the value you provide to society which produces and provides your income.
This value you provide is the result of the job you do.
Your job isn’t giving you money.
People who find value in what you do are giving your employer money, who then takes their rightful cut, and then pays you with some of the remainder.
Jobs don’t create income.
Value creates income.
You don’t need a job to provide value. This means you don’t need a job to generate income for yourself, either.
This is one of the most insidious aspects of social programming; mutual exclusivity.
If you find yourself constantly short on money, reevaluate your current position.
What are you providing to the rest of humanity? Are you genuinely doing work in a field you feel inspired by, or are you just defaulting to uninspiring work out of fear of failure, to avoid debt, etc?
Now, a deeper question: is money the driving mechanism behind why you’d choose one field of work over another?
If money is your prime motivator, it’s no wonder you find it difficult to get out of your current stuck-ness.
Money by itself is an incredibly weak motivator (yes, even for people who claim it’s a strong one/their biggest motivator).
You know this is absolutely true, because if I offered you a choice between two jobs paying the same rate, and one involved your passion, you’d choose that one instantly. The other path will pay you the same, but the work – the state of being you’ll be occupying – for 8 hours a day is entirely different.
It’s actually this state of being you’re after – NOT money.
Money is secondary to following your path with a heart.
You can deny this all you want; go ahead and live another 5 years exactly as you have been, and get back to me with how that works out.
If you want to earn more money, you need to begin providing more value.
Nobody is stopping you from succeeding in this life. You and only you are your greatest asset and liability. The more you learn to control your assets (such as conscious awareness, choice, and intelligence), the less you’ll be liable to boring, stale, and uninspiring circumstances and situations.
If you still think this isn’t feasible, keep reading…
3. The World is Unfair. There’s No Point in Trying.
The world isn’t unfair.
It’s YOU who isn’t consciously strong enough to embrace how that naturally-occurring external resistance is necessary for fulfilling growth.
The world only appears to be unfair because there are billions of human beings, all at different levels of conscious awareness, all striving for different goals in different ways.
This naturally leads to instances where people with more courage and/or a thicker skin will accomplish things some people might never even attempt in a million years. Nothing is stopping anyone from either group from working on themselves and conquering their fears.
The former group is just behaving as comes naturally to them, while the second group often views such people as greedy, lacking empathy, and acting inhuman.
The former group also sees the latter group as being timid, cowardly, and terrified of their own shadow. Grossly exaggerated stereotypes abound from both sides, making it even more of a mess to sift through.
The world is full of people who insist that things are falling apart.
These same people are almost always the people who keep showing up to vote, blindly obey authority figures, continue to buy products and services which reinforce the social prison (that they apparently only have the eyes to see) – and then bitch endlessly when things don’t change or continue to get worse.
Talk about unconsciously choosing to perpetuate.
“Assume, Consume, Resume” may as well be their campaign mantra. (Hmmm…maybe I should make some t-shirts )
2. I Don’t Know How!
This one’s almost the top excuse.
I say almost, because people love to make this one a mess by insisting that money needs to be involved.
The issue here is, in the information age, “I don’t know how” isn’t a valid excuse anymore.
You most likely have a phone in your pocket that’s more powerful than the best computer available in 1990. You have a portable search engine on you 24/7…and you still “don’t know how”?
Of course, I’m not implying that you educate yourself via your cell phone (it’s possible, though!); my point was there’s an internet connection at most places, and you can get a damn good head start on just about any topic by making use of it.
If you can’t learn it on the internet, the internet will point you to a source thatwill allow you to learn it.
This doesn’t even take into account formal education, which is still always another option.
Another favorite excuse is to use your particular field of knowledge as a reason to procrastinate:
“I just gotta wait six more months until I can get into that over-booked nursing program”, and/or “I can’t do anything until July, so I’m just going to sit around and waste time until then – instead of getting a head-start, filling in the cracks of my current knowledge, and possibly come to the realization that this isn’t even the field I want to be in”.
Nobody is stopping you from increasing your current levels of knowledge other than yourself. You can throw all the external blame around that you want, but at least be mature enough to recognize that this solves nothing.
But when all else fails, there’s always one good old reliable excuse to fall back on…
1. …But, But, But…The Government!
It’s the Government! They control everything! We can’t truly be free until we prevent GMOs, RFID chips, and a one-world oligarchy! Wake up, you stupid sheeple!
Does the above sound familiar? These are the all-too-familar rants of conspiracy consciousness, of which far too many people become ensnared.
As is a common trait of becoming more conscious, people at this level naively assume that other people haven’t thought of or noticed the ills of the world to the degree that that have. They can’t fathom how intelligent people can be aware of potential dangers in the world, and just keep right on living their lives.
There’s a reason it seems like nobody cares for conspiracy theories.
This is because it’s not the government.
This is the number one complaint on this list, because people assume it’s reasonable to project your dissatisfaction with life onto an authority figure, then complain when said authority figure does nothing about it.
This is convenient…because it lets you avoid having to take full responsibility for your life.
“If only the government could get the deficit problem solved, then I can really get going on my goals!”
Look at it this way: if there was a huge conspiracy, one of the greatest threats to it would be people refusing to allow it to interfere with their own personal/spiritual evolution.
All of that stuff is one huge distraction.
The people who complain about the world like it’s a boxing match that needs to be won before we can sit down and eat our meals, are in truth absolutely terrified of their own power. You know this is true, because they display the blatant, most basic signs of psychological turmoil.
Being afraid of your own power is the root cause of all the symptoms which create complaining in the first place.
Subconsciously fearing your true power is the biggest barrier for most people.
You can laugh all you want at that, but I guarantee somewhere deep inside, you actually fear what would happen if you became a millionaire.
What would your family think? How would they treat you? How many of your friends would suddenly only start talking to you when you could throw them a few grand? What about people who don’t think you deserve that kind of money? How will you handle that sort of criticism?
The easiest way to handle that level of criticism is to avoid it entirely. Since this is the easiest option, avoidance is precisely what everyone does.
This avoidance is also why so many people end up depressed, listless, and apathetic toward life in general.
The issue here is that the more you fear your own power, the more you’re going to rationalize not taking action in exciting and empowering directions in this life.
You can give up your ability to choose, but you can never give up your responsibility for doing so.
You and you alone must endure any and all consequences and results you create in this life, so why leave those results up to other people with other agendas?
Why would you let a conspiracy (if there is one) stop you?
If the ship’s already sinking, as so many claim, why wouldn’t you begin prioritizing your own growth?
Are you using the excuse of altruism to “take care of the rest of the world first” before working on yourself?
Don’t you realize that the secret to changing the world lies in first changing yourself?
If you’re not working on yourself for the betterment of both you and humanity at large, what are you doing…?
Are you waiting for permission to get started? Get going!
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